Getting Out of the Hole

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Lauren Edmunds uses a powerful metaphor to explore what real remediation should look like when children are struggling.
Rather than repeatedly pulling children out of difficulty, she explains why the focus must be on building the skills, resilience and self-belief that allow them to climb out themselves — and stay out.
This episode is a thoughtful reflection on over-helping, learned helplessness, and the role of parents, teachers and therapists in creating strong, capable children who can navigate challenges with confidence.
19 Jan English South Africa Education · Self-Improvement

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