Let's talk about sex, AGAIN

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* Content warning: This episode contains adult themes and is intended for listeners aged 18 and older.*

You wanted more candid conversations about sex, so here it is: Nozibele reconnects with gynaecologist and sexologist Dr Nompumelelo "Mpume" Zenda, aka Dr Gynae, for an open, no-holds-barred talk on everything from libido and Polycystic Ovary Syndrome (PCOS) to first-time sex experiences. They debunk myths, explore female pleasure, and discuss why honest conversations around sexuality are essential to health and happiness.

This episode explores topics many shy away from: celebrating body confidence, understanding hormonal health challenges like PCOS, and affirming that your sexual journey is valid at every stage of life. Whether you're curious, confused, or ready to break free from silence, this episode offers insight, support, and truth without judgment or taboo.

In this episode:
00:00 Introduction and Welcome
00:14 Guest Introduction and Popular Demand
01:00 Diving into Sex and Sexuality
02:46 First Time Sex: Expectations vs. Reality
06:10 Understanding Vaginal Tightness
08:44 Self-Pleasure and Masturbation
15:30 Contraceptives and Libido
17:22 The Importance of Lube
18:17 Postpartum Sex Drive
19:45 Intimacy and Communication
20:08 Debunking Myths About Women's Sex Drive
21:32 The Role of Romance
22:08 Initiating Intimacy
26:15 Maintaining Sexual Chemistry
30:39 Stimulating the Senses
32:55 Final Thoughts and Takeaways

About Dr Nompumelelo Zenda

Dr Nompumelelo Zenda is a Johannesburg-based OB-Gynae and medical sexologist, renowned for advancing sexual and reproductive health in South Africa. Founder of the innovative wellness consultancy We See You, and a Fellow of the European Committee of Sexual Medicine, Dr Zenda blends medical expertise with cultural awareness. Through her media work, advocacy, and teaching, she empowers young South Africans to take confident control over their bodies, health, and relationships.

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This show is a collaboration between DW and leading South African radio stations, Jacaranda FM and East Coast Radio. Catch up with our host Nozibele · More information about this podcast · The 77 Percent (DW Africa)
7 Oct 2025 English South Africa Society & Culture · Personal Journals

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