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Don't hold back: say it loud!

Money, sex, relationships, addiction, careers and more! Young South Africans chat openly and frankly about their experiences in these podcasts hosted by Nozibele Qamngana-Mayaba.

Imagine if there was a place where everyone could open up about their experiences. That's what “Don't hold back” is all about! Young South Africans chat frankly about everything from their struggle with finances and substance abuse to toxic relationships and choosing the right career.

Life feels lighter when you can listen and learn from other people's experiences.

Nozibele Qamngana-Mayaba is an award-winning South African content creator, author and HIV activist. Join her as she chats and tries out new food with a different guest in each monthly episode.

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This show is a collaboration between DW and leading South African radio stations, Jacaranda FM and East Coast Radio.
Weekly English South Africa Society & Culture · Personal Journals
56 Episodes
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Marriage unfiltered: The truth behind the 'perfect' social media life

nstagram shows us flowers, holidays, and perfect couple selfies. But what’s really happening behind those posts? In this season finale of Don’t Hold Back, Nozibele Qamngana-Mayaba sits down with her husband, Skhu Mayaba, for a real, funny, and honest conversation about what love looks like when no one’s watching. They…
4 Nov 2025 33 min

The pain we never name: Healing the mother wound

What happens when your first heartbreak is your mother? In this deeply personal episode, author and coach Moshitadi Lehlomela joins Nozibele Qamngana-Mayaba to talk about the quiet pain many people carry --the mother wound. Moshitadi shares how she first recognised her own wound at university, when anxiety and depression began…
21 Oct 2025 36 min

Let's talk about sex, AGAIN

* Content warning: This episode contains adult themes and is intended for listeners aged 18 and older.* You wanted more candid conversations about sex, so here it is: Nozibele reconnects with gynaecologist and sexologist Dr Nompumelelo "Mpume" Zenda, aka Dr Gynae, for an open, no-holds-barred talk on everything from libido…
7 Oct 2025 34 min

Gcina Mhlophe on embracing culture and tradition

In the latest episode, legendary storyteller, poet and author Dr. Gcina Mhlophe reflects on what it means to preserve culture in a fast-changing world. Dr. Mhlophe shares her journey from a childhood “house of song and prayer” to becoming one of South Africa’s most respected custodians of heritage. She explains…
23 Sep 2025 29 min

Five simple habits to a healthier you

What does “healthy” really mean? In this episode of Don’t Hold Back, Nozibele Qamngana-Mayaba talks to fitness coach Kopano Mokhele, who deliberately gained 25 kilos — and is now losing it again — to better understand what his clients face. Kopano shares honest lessons about food cravings, mental health, and…
9 Sep 2025 31 min

5 Things You Need to Know Before You Turn 35

When Nozibele Qamngana-Mayaba revealed on the podcast that she’s turning 35 later this year, she admitted she was struggling with questions many women ask themselves: Have I achieved enough? Am I where I should be at this age? It was the perfect moment to bring in a mentor figure. Sitting…
26 Aug 2025 38 min

Living Proudly: Black, Gay, HIV-Positive in 2025

How do you live proudly when the world still carries stigma? In this episode of Don’t Hold Back, Nozibele Qamngana-Mayaba sits down with Phenyo Moletsane - a proud Black, gay man living openly with HIV in 2025 - for a powerful conversation that goes beyond labels, fear, and silence. From…
12 Aug 2025 33 min

Sex and Sexuality: What women wish they’d been taught

How do you talk about sex when no one ever taught you how? *Content warning: This episode contains adult themes and is intended for listeners aged 18 and older.* In this episode, Nozibele Qamngana-Mayaba is joined by Johannesburg-based gynaecologist and sexologist Dr Nompumelelo “Mpume” Zenda (AKA Dr Gynae). Together, they…
29 Jul 2025 34 min

Breaking the Silence: Men & Mental Health

Content Warning: Sensitive Topics South African men are silently suffering. Many are dying inside, and some are taking their own lives. In this deeply personal episode of Don’t Hold Back, author, poet, and social activist Zonwabele Zola “Blackie” Tshayana opens up about his experience with depression, suicide attempts, and growing…
15 Jul 2025 39 min

Overcoming the Odds: Sibulele’s Inspiring Story

From loss to twin motherhood. From rural roots to boardrooms. In this inspiring Season 3 launch episode, powerhouse speaker and mother of twins, Sibulele Sibaca-Nomnganga, joins Nozibele to unpack what it really means to overcome the odds. She opens up about navigating miscarriage, fertility treatment, societal pressure, and the choice…
1 Jul 2025 36 min

Former Miss SA: Anxiety once 'paralyzed' me

Did you know that former Miss South Africa Shudufhadzo ‘Shudu’ Musida only entered the competition to fulfill a promise to a friend? For our season two finale, host Nozibele Qamngana-Mayaba talks to Shudu about how getting a grip on her mental health literally helped her achieve her potential. We also…
9 Jul 2024 41 min

Former Miss SA: Anxiety once 'paralyzed' me

Did you know that former Miss South Africa Shudufhadzo ‘Shudu’ Musida only entered the competition to fulfill a promise to a friend? For our season two finale, host Nozibele Qamngana-Mayaba talks to Shudu about how getting a grip on her mental health literally helped her achieve her potential. We also…
9 Jul 2024 41 min

Fighting an invisible enemy

Imagine living with a disease that means you cannot eat most foods, keeps you out of school, blemishes your skin and forces you to move cities - but no one has a cure, and some doctors don't even believe you. This is the story of Princess Mahogo, a young South…
12 Jun 2024 24 min

Fighting an invisible enemy

Imagine living with a disease that means you cannot eat most foods, keeps you out of school, blemishes your skin and forces you to move cities - but no one has a cure, and some doctors don't even believe you. This is the story of Princess Mahogo, a young South…
11 Jun 2024 24 min

Why your vote could decide SA's election

Not since 1994 has there been this much hype for a South African election! And young people may swing the outcome, despite many expressing apathy and gloom at South Africa's current state. Renowned political scientist Dr. Sithembile Mbete tells Don't Hold Back host Nozibele Qamngana-Mayaba exactly why every single vote…
15 May 2024 30 min

Why your vote could decide SA's election

Not since 1994 has there been this much hype for a South African election! And young people may swing the outcome, despite many expressing apathy and gloom at South Africa's current state. Renowned political scientist Dr. Sithembile Mbete tells Don't Hold Back host Nozibele Qamngana-Mayaba exactly why every single vote…
14 May 2024 30 min

Top Chef Wandile shares his recipe for success

Chef Wandile Mabaso's hard shifts in the kitchen have taken him from coveted restaurants in the USA and France to cooking for world leaders in South Africa. Not bad for a man from Soweto whose peers once laughed at him taking cooking classes! Chef Wandile shares his recipe for success…
10 Apr 2024 31 min

From Soweto to the World Stage: How Chef Wandile cooked his way to the top

Chef Wandile Mabaso's hard shifts in the kitchen have taken him from coveted restaurants in the USA and France to cooking for world leaders in South Africa. Not bad for a man from Soweto whose peers once laughed at him taking cooking classes! Chef Wandile shares his recipe for success…
9 Apr 2024 31 min

Fighting back against cyberbullies (Emma Sadleir)

For lawyer Emma Sadleir, there are tough cases, and then there are cyberbullying cases. The growing trend is victims are getting younger, and perpetrators are harder to catch. Not even host Nozibele Qamngana-Mayaba is safe, but Emma - an expert on social media law - has some tips for her…
13 Mar 2024 32 min

Fighting back against cyberbullies (Emma Sadleir)

For lawyer Emma Sadleir, there are tough cases, and then there are cyberbullying cases. The growing trend is victims are getting younger, and perpetrators are harder to catch. Not even host Nozibele Qamngana-Mayaba is safe, but Emma - an expert on social media law - has some tips for her…
12 Mar 2024 32 min
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