Confession: Co-parenting turns to resentment

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Every Thursday around this time, we detail some of the wildest confessions from the streets of Mzansi. We get YOU to weigh in on your unfiltered thoughts. I am at the edge of my seat for the confession this week.

This week's confession went something like this:

"I’m going to say something that sounds terrible, but I know I’m not the only one thinking it: sometimes co-parenting feels harder than the relationship ever did. Not because we don’t love the child, but because we’re constantly negotiating with someone we no longer chose. Every decision feels like a compromise, every win feels temporary, and sometimes peace only exists when one person stays quiet.
The guilt is heavy, the communication is exhausting, and on some days it feels like you’re parenting with one hand tied behind your back, smiling in front of your child while quietly resenting the system behind the scenes. In all honesty, this has made me RESENT, yes RESENT, the child. I just hope it is a phase that is going to fade.”
15 Jan English South Africa Society & Culture · Personal Journals

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