Kink 101, with Avri Spilka - S4E7

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If you think that kink is ’50 shades of grey’, think again. In this episode, my guest and I delve deep into what kink actually is, how to practice it and how it can even be a therapeutic practice. In my opinion, what we see in mainstream media doesn’t do kink justice as it’s far more nuanced. It involves expert communication, trust, vulnerability, and ultimately revolves around play.

My guest for this episode is Avri Spilka, a clinical psychologist specialising in sexuality in Johannesburg, who is also the president of the Southern African Sexual Health Association (SASHA). She’s highly experienced in helping clients navigate kink and helping people achieve a satisfying and rewarding sex life. I’ve known Avri for many years and respect her work and approach to sex positivity immensely.

This episode really will expand your view of kink and may even stir some curiosity within you!

For more about Avri, visit her website: https://avrispilka.co.za

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14 Jul 2022 English South Africa Sexuality · Relationships

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